Cannot make do

In the old saying in China, there are many "mediate not advised", "Ning removed ten temples, do not ruin a marriage" such as speech, as if the divorce is a very unfortunate, very immoral thing. Westerners say more straightforward, the new testament of the Bible written in black and white: "whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery is, to live up to his wife. And if she divorces her husband and marries another, commits adultery. "

However to modern times, these divorce morality's speech to a large extent lost its effectiveness, advocating personal happiness and free people are no longer willing to make do with for life. At this point, against divorced from morals into the context of the scope of responsibilities, more and more people started to call for no child divorce and let it go, but there is a child must be responsible for the child, must not divorce.

To date, this "in order to have children do" argument has become common sense. In witnessed many scenes of children after the divorce of their parents unhappy, we also receive a divorce is harmful to children for such an argument. However, the fact is this true?

After doing research on a large number of divorced couples, United States scientists found that divorced children harm did not leave, but this damage was the source of surprise. In fact, the injury of divorce for children before the divorce, mostly from the couple's spells, rather than the fact that the divorce. This means that if two people are not happy with, or fail to meet the minimum standards of courtesy, then drag the two of them together have more time to the disadvantage of more children.

Only with respect to divorce itself, scientists is difficult to determine whether the child has hurt or hurt how much. Scientists find a divorce rate of families and family income has a direct relationship. As we usually say "poor and lowly couples Pepsi mourning" contradictions of poverty tend to make the couple, eventually leading to divorce. But as a result, scientists it's hard to tell the children in this process is the trauma of poverty was received as a result of divorce.

After the divorce, scientists found no evidence that single parent families will certainly is bad for children. Evidence shows that both father with children or mothers with children, two people as long as the children have enough love and create a healthy growth environment for children, children grow up in mental health is not worse than the children of two-parent families. In fact, scientists only can determine is that remarriage does have the potential to cause harm to the child.

According to these findings, we can make some modifications to old saying and traditional morality. Not even faces and hearts, if two people can remain on the surface of the calm, then continued to do for kids is beneficial. If the two sides had poor family environment, economy after divorce is a ball, then make do with is good, because poverty is certainly bad for the kids. If a child is small, remarriage after divorce, then continued to do well.

If not these specific cases, so the old saying goes, and whether the traditional fair is worth considering. Divorce is not immoral, it may not be certainly is bad for children. If you divorce killed by a stick, are all divorces are said to be immoral and harmful to the child, so the end result can only be a marriage of two bitter life, deep at the same time more and more damage to the child. So, good poly is good for all people, do not better outcomes?