Before adult wishes

Last week after reading Michael Basch (Ba Shike) the Doing of Psychotherapy, a case on case impressed.

A 21-year old boy, one of the symptoms is the girlfriend of no impulse (more than this one problem, of course). His fantasies and his girlfriend have sex, but can only imagine two people having sex moments. Dream, a woman for him, entered the room, and then woke up.

In this case, BA history g of resolution, than traditional Freudian interpretation, make me uncomfortable a lot. BA think, is because this boy in growth process in the, is in since body of established process in the, experience has some special of setbacks, makes he adult yihou in and people close contact of moments, relative Yu adults of libido, more need meet of, is children era remnants of down of other wishes--in was embrace, and was caressing, and was Kiss forehead Shi established "own is was count of, and has value of" belief of wishes.

That is, when the environmental conditions of our childhood in some important development is not sufficient, not being caressed, by hugging, was followed by gentle moment, healthy body impressions, not established inside a firm sense of self-worth, then, for pursuing such feelings, will continue into the adult life. In the process of getting along with your partner, these childhood aspirations are not being met will continue to seek to meet. We hope that with love in physical contact, get your own "love" sense of value, rather than the adult's sexual desire. This is the many root causes of the problem.

In other words, a person's intellectual development, must not be the same as his mental maturity; so it is with physical maturation.

More hidden there, while some people can "normal medical sense" and people having sex, rarely experience the thrill of the moment (this not men and women).

Traditional classic psychoanalysis, was the traumatic experience in the "former Russian" or "after Russia" standards to determine personality disorders and neurotic is case sensitive, but I prefer the g set about the history of Pakistan "is the value of love" explaining ideas.

Say easy, we can imagine that small parks under the Moon and flowers, you and loved ones (or imaginary lover) for a walk in the night, you are more likely to think of two people nestled together Sweet Honey, sleeping in the midst of the fragrance; also is easier to think of xxoo adult game?

Here I am not saying that normal adults to think the latter will only color. However, if someone had never think, probably belonging to not to "Russia". Nothing in roughly estimated 100 adults, about 30 people are like that. For these people, really like and enjoy, is the feeling of being in love in my arms, rather than that nothing.